Comments on: Every Time I Build Up Hope, Then I Fail

By: Rebecca Laffar-Smith

Rebecca Laffar-Smith — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 00:40:41 +0000

It is so easy to fall into patterns of thinking. The example above simply lacks hindsight. 'Failure' is entirely perception of a moment. When you reflect on the path you've traveled where you are now might not be where you would like to be at this point but it's not where you once were. Hope are the ropes that bind us to the cliff-face but we have to do the climbing ourselves. Of course, I've no right to preach self-help. My inner-demons have their claws in my consciousness too. But then, isn't that what being human is about? Learning to face our demons, climb the mountain, and rise above. Rebecca Laffar-Smiths last blog post..Direction: Google Maps Can’t Help Me!

By: Craig

Craig — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 05:41:21 +0000

This type of analysis only works when you have words to describe the feeling you're having. I find that when I feel negative emotions, they often come in under the radar, without seemingly any cognition. The first step, and the one I find hardest, is putting words to the "thought" that brought tthe emotion. It's like reverse engineering. Then I work on the distortion. Journalling can be a good tool for this. Craigs last blog post..I’m a creep, I’m a weirdo….

By: Melissa Donovan

Melissa Donovan — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 07:48:57 +0000

Failure’s okay. You have to fail first before you succeed, right? Here’s the thing — it’s the people who keep trying. Those are the folks who eventually succeed. That’s why there’s a limitless supply of hope. It’s up to each of us to keep acting on it.

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By: Evan

Evan — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 13:16:40 +0000

Advice.

1. If hope doesn’t work for you then work with what you feel is certain or immediate.

You may not be able to run a marathon but 20 minutes a day will improve your health. Small steps can be worthwhile and in small steps can lead to bigger steps.

2. Anger is a valid part of grieving and disappointment. If you are angry there are safe ways to express it. When you express it with all of you then you feel a cleansing and relief. This is a gain if nothing else.

3. If you would like me to deal with more specifics feel free to email me.

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By: Crystal

Crystal — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 00:26:49 +0000

This is a trap that a lot of shy people fall into as well. They're so worried about making a good impression on a new person, that they don't think that the other person may be uncomfortable too. When I was going though a shy spell I used to think that any sign of the other person being uncomfortable meant that they didn't like me. When it turned out that they were a bit shy too! Crystals last blog post..Rebelling against procrastination?

By: Ali Hale (from Alpha Student)

Ali Hale (from Alpha Student) — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 18:53:32 +0000

I think some of us optimistic folks tend to view the world a bit too rosily at times. It can be easy to get your hopes up — and have them dashed when dreams and reality don’t quite match up.

I’d say: base your hopes on something. It’s great to dream, but don’t be completely unrealistic. Why not pick some small targets, and get on an “achievement roll” … then go for the bigger ones.

And be willing to accept that sometimes success won’t come in the form that you’d hoped for or predicted — but it’ll be success all the same (and often better than you’d imagined).

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By: Jamie Simmerman

Jamie Simmerman — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 14:05:56 +0000

@ Chatty DM ” Success comes from talent (small part), hard work (big part) and guts to shut those inner-demons and throw ourselves down a cliff.”

I LOVE that!

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By: Jamie Simmerman

Jamie Simmerman — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 13:45:47 +0000

When I read this, I was thinking, "How in the world did they end up on this blog with those keywords!":D Jamie Simmermans last blog post..We Donate with Squidoo, Do You?

By: The Chatty DM

The Chatty DM — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 11:39:39 +0000

That cliff is a figure of speech meaning a daunting project…

Just making sure…

By: The Chatty DM

The Chatty DM — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 11:38:58 +0000

Believing those cognitive distortion is what I call ‘listening to your inner-demons’. When self-esteem issues plague someone, they’re constantly controlled by that inner voice that says things that are hurtful and reinforce the thoughts that any form of success is impossible.

I say we need to learn to ignore those voices. We need to stop thinking our writing is uninteresting, we need to stop blaming others for our lack of success.

Success comes from talent (small part), hard work (big part) and guts to shut those inner-demons and throw ourselves down a cliff.